I used to be so calm. Nothing would ever bother me and even if it did, I would just go home and cry my eyes out until every trace of my annoyance would fade away. I would keep it all inside, not having the courage to speak up.
However, as I got older, things changed. I wasn’t shy anymore, and I wouldn’t take a step back anytime something bothered me. I was slowly growing into what I am today. The thing is, this change had a negative side too. Now, I quickly lose my temper.
It’s so easy to get angry. But if you’re like me, you might regret it later, either for saying things you don’t mean or snapping without any good reason. It may feel good to get it out of your chest, but there’s a chance you might be overreacting. Those are some things you should take into consideration.
Think before you speak.
This is something you’ve probably heard a thousand times but it is only because it’s so important. Your anger will surely go away but the words you say to a human being will stay with them. So before saying something hurtful, you’ve got to realize words can only be forgiven, but not forgotten.
Are you in a bad mood?
A bad mood can surely make you angry without reason. So become aware of the way you are feeling before taking it out on everyone. You don’t feel like doing anything? Have you been picking fights with everyone around you? Then you’re probably in a bad mood. Take a step back.
Become aware of your anger.
The best way to calm down is to become aware of why you’re angry. Is it a good reason? Is it something that would matter 30 minutes from now? If you can get to the root of it, it can be appeased.
Can you make any changes?
Even if you have a good reason to be angry, you have to ask yourself. Is it about something you can change? If not, let it go. People, the past, feelings and many other things can’t be changed. So why let it eat you up?
Know you hurt yourself.
“Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.”
This quote says is all.
Get angry but don’t stay angry
It’s really important to know it’s okay to be angry from time to time. Keeping feelings bottled up is not healthy nor amusing. However, it’s not okay to embrace it. Let anger teach you, but don’t let it control you. Learn to let it go.
It’s not easy to think about all these things when your judgement is clouded and all you want to do is break something. But like any other feature of a human being, self-control can be enhanced in time.